Enriching Relationship Breakthroughs

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Success has never been a singular effort. In most cases, it is a conspiracy of all the elements required to succeed, coupled with determination and the perfect timing that make it all happen. So for those who feel that they can succeed on their own without the help of others, it is basically the other way around.

The energy that comes from all the good relationships with others is more often than not the boost that sustains you and supports all your endeavors. This is how critical your relationship with others is and you should learn how to harness these relationships without taking advantage of the people who truly care for you.

Neuro-Linguistic Programming for Relationships

As scientific and complicated as it may sound, Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) is actually easy to understand and use. It is the integration of three of the most influential components needed to produce human experiences and they are neurology, language, and programming. The dynamics of the three ultimately defines how the body behaves as an individual and with others. For success to happen in the different areas of a person's life like career, family, and even business, it is ideal to have a good and productive relationship with the people you deal with because it encourages productivity and produces results quicker and more easily. Below are some tools and guidelines that would show how NLP can make these better relationships for you.

Ideas should be expressed

People communicate to get their message across. Nobody can function without communicating the ideas efficiently. Even the muted movement of the eyes or absolute silence communicates a wallop of emotions that are sometimes better left unsaid, but ultimately understood or felt. When a person ceases to communicate, there is the perception that something is wrong with the person and this is mostly true, specifically if the non-verbal mood is a departure from the usual bubbly self of the person.

Underscoring the need to openly communicate with the people you deal with, the words simply make everything easier to understand. This counts a lot specifically for those you are close to or know very well. People tend to expect their loved ones to understand them immediately, even when not a single word was uttered. Opening the communication line erases the gray areas that you deal with when communicating with a silent partner.

Opening up to other Realities

Steven Covey has encouraged people to seek first to understand and then to be understood. This perfectly summarizes why it is difficult to break through a person you perceive to be different or difficult to deal with. NLP reminds us that everyone has different experiences, values, and expectations that filter the way people live their lives. By following these “maps,” you get to determine the effective way of communicating and consequently harvest good relationships with them.

These signposts have been programmed over the years in our minds and can be difficult to change overtime. But by knowing them and how they shape the person you deal with, everything becomes easier to understand and it makes it possible to get along with everyone you meet. Having this kind of flexibility enables you to control any situation and succeed over them, setting-up your success in the areas that matter in your life.

Get the Message Across at all Cost 

With NLP, you are armed with the tools to communicate in the most effective manner, and that includes speaking in the other's terms, understanding the world they live in, and just try to forget your concerns for a moment.

For this reason, try to know as much as you can about the person. Social media accounts are good sources of invaluable information about the person, information that they are willing to share in the first place. Should their vocabulary be so different from the one that you use, explore and have fun with the new words that you will encounter along the way.

We Get by with What We Have

As kids, we have known the power of crying to get what we want and as we get older, we become more sophisticated and realize what works for us when we need to get something. From this point of view, you can deduce that everyone has his or her own unique way of achieving the same results, underscoring the fact that behavior does have a positive intention.

Using this to understand why people behave in certain ways from their own perspective empowers you to help the person know more about himself. This is also the reason why nobody can actually solve somebody else’s problems. We can only give them the tools to do so.

Below are some effective NLP techniques that are guaranteed to improve your relationships with the people who matter in your life.

People easily react negatively on practically everything and in the process become upset or stressed out about it. Dissociation simply put, gives the person the chance to step back and look at the situation from the perspective of an audience, neutralizing all the negative emotions caused by the stressor. Sounds easier than it is, but for some situations and people, the hurt or trauma is deep and this make dissociation a little more complicated than it should be. However, with the proper NLP technique, it can be achieved.

In a nutshell, you have to identify the emotion that you have to get rid of. It can be anything from fears to the more common dislikes you may have. Visualize yourself in that situation, like watching a short video with you as the star. Rewind, fast-forward, rewind this video in your mind. Now play it backwards, but change the score into a funny song and do it 3-4 times. After doing this, think again of the situation as if it was happening right now and you are supposed to discover that the negative stimulus has finally disappeared.

Now try to see in your mind the same event like it was happening to you now. The emotions towards the stimulus should have disappeared or changed. If you still feel some kind of negative emotion, keep repeating this exercise until the negative emotion has completely disappeared.

Re-framing Content

There are situations that render you powerless, or just plain angry. They are really frustrating and most of the time crippling. For this type of situation, NLP allows you to think of the said situation, but in a different, and definitely more empowering, way. You can now create a positive frame for the content that you want to deal with.

A good example is losing a job. For a while, it does seem really desperate and a thousand worries easily come into mind. But when you think of it as an escape from the routine that you have developed and you see the other opportunities that abound with the free time you have now, you begin to feel excitement instead of fear.

Anchoring to Yourself

NLP also has a tool called self-anchoring and is specifically used to elicit an emotional response to something you say or do. By having that trigger handy, you are empowered to change the way you feel instantly and get rid of your insecurities and anger on a specific person or thing.

There are many other NLP techniques that unleash your ability to nurture meaningful relationships with others for success. To learn more, join me in one of my Jacky Lim NLP Sharing Sessions. This two-hour session will show you the many breakthroughs that can happen in your life with the use of NLP.

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